Gosho Passage 11
And do not go around lamenting to others how hard it is for you to live in this world. To do so is an act utterly unbecoming to a worthy man.
Lecture: “Lamentation” Retards the Construction of the Inner Self
Here, the Daishonin strictly cautions against giving voice to lamentations, addressing a common human vulnerability to complain about unavoidable hardships.
The tendency to lament exists in everyone. Even Kingo, who was prepared to give his life during crises, was vulnerable to interpersonal frictions and prone to complaining due to his intense personality. Yet sharing complaints with others characterizes foolishness rather than wisdom.
If one complains to one’s spouse about the hardships of the world, the spouse, out of concern, may inadvertently speak of these matters to outsiders, exposing the husband’s vulnerabilities. The fault lies not with the spouse, but with the husband’s own indiscreet behavior.
Complaints foster inner weakness and cause stagnation. The Daishonin taught Shijo Kingo that eliminating complaints and directly confronting his own human revolution is the direct path to victory in life.